2021.12.03 03:44 randyColumbine The most important lesson: share with anyone you can.
The Five steps that create a school shooter:
The Five Steps: Bullying. Humiliation. Hypervigilance. Violentization. Violence.
Bullying is a very specific word. Let’s discuss it. Bullying describes physical or emotional threats, but, in my definition, it is limited. It could be the threat of physical violence, but only at a personal level. As an example, two boys have an altercation, because one of them is larger and more physical, and he teases or beats up the weaker boy. A very simple example, of course.
Bullying is one on one, and is not witnessed by others. It is instilling fear and control into someone, through the acts of the bully.
When I bully you in front of other people, I have added a new level of pain. I have humiliated you.
My bullying has been witnessed by other children, or parents, or teachers. Now, you have been humiliated.
You have been physically abused, and embarrassed. You have been humiliated. Now, the bullying is public. It is embarrassing. It stings. It is remembered. Everyone knows you are a coward and weak.
Humiliation is a much deeper and longer lasting fear, and problem. The child is embarrassed. The child remembers it, and it changes them. Some will become suicidal. Some will withdraw from society, and friends, as a defense mechanism. They will all be changed, and remember it.
Yes, some children will be resilient, and let it bounce off their stronger egos, and not be changed, but they will remember it forever. It may teach the stronger ones to not humiliate other children, and it may teach others that humiliating children is acceptable and ok. It is the beginning of pain. The question is, how will the child react to the pain. Will they internalize it, or will they externalize it? Will they become withdrawn, shy, afraid, and damaged, or will they respond with violence?
This is the big one. Bullied and humiliated children will respond in many different ways, but hypervigilance will accentuate the response. A humiliated child, who is constantly humiliated, will become sensitive to humiliation. They will become afraid, and they will notice every single instance of humiliation and bullying, and they will remember it, magnify it, and absorb it, until it becomes the driving force in their life. Continued bullying and humiliation will create the state of hypervigilance. Every potential humiliation, or even the hint of it, is listed and categorized by the humiliated student. They see the bully knock a kid down, and they note it. They see girls making fun of a boy, and it is remembered and accentuated. They hear laughter from across the room, and they know the laughter is about them. They know it. They are afraid. They are embarrassed. They have become hypervigilant. Every instance of interaction in a school is a reflection on them, or on the bullies in the school. They accentuate their fear, and learn that they are not safe, not protected. This leads to suicides, depression, dropping out, sadness, and changes in personality. It can also lead to violence. Since they are being humiliated, and no one is defending them, a few children will decide to be violent, and get revenge.
But why revenge? They believe they have been humiliated and physically abused. They believe that it is unjust. They have been unfairly abused. They have developed a perceived injustice, which is the same to them as an actual injustice. To them the injustice was real, and wrong. They decide to get revenge.
Yes, A word that you are not familiar with: Violentization. Discussed in great detail in Lonnie Athens book “The Creation of Dangerous and Violent Criminals,” this is the process that some boys, and girls, will use to defend themselves. It starts as a simple standing up for yourself, but in subtle ways. Fighting the bully is impossible, so they will dye their hair black, wear dark clothes, wear sunglasses, and start to bully or be physical with other weaker children. They respond to continued humiliation by humiliating other children. They respond to the fear by creating fear. This reaction will increase and continue to increase, often to dangerous levels. This process of violentization is what creates criminals and violence. Certainly not in all cases, but it is a major cause. This process requires a mentor, a teacher, who will instruct the hypervigilant and defensive child in ways to act, in how to be tough. In school shootings, the mentors are the bullies, then other bullied kids at a school, who have learned to fight bullies as a group. In school shootings, video games are a mentor. They teach the bullied child how to fight back, with knives and weapons and bombs. And, in school shootings, movies are a mentor. They teach violence and violent responses to injustice. I don’t need to give an example here, do I? Here is a short list: Death Wish (1974), Blood Father, Natural Born Killers, Kill Bill, The Punisher, Falling Down, Mad Max, 22 Bullets, RoboCop, Death Wish 4, American History X, A History of Violence, Super Dark Times, Scarface, Seven, Collateral, John Wick, John Wick 2, The Equalizer, Shooter, John Wick 3, Vengeance, Death Wish (2018), Carrie, The Brave One, Acts of Vengeance, I Am Wrath, and hundreds and hundreds of other movies. The mentor does not have to be the criminal next door. It can be, and is, the violence in theatres and on television. We ignore it. These children watch and receive instructions.
Video games, some of them, act as a mentor too. The violent ones teach the coldness of killing and death. They teach the ease of killing. They teach violence. They are the unfeeling, cold, cruel, impersonal teacher of death.
At some point, in the process of violentization, the bullied child makes a decision to be violent. They decide to get revenge. That accounts for the rarity, in general, of school shootings. It takes a continued environment of bullying and humiliation, without intervention on the behalf of the bullied child, for the process of violentization to reach the point where the bullied child makes that decision. It takes time for the bullied child to decide to be violent, and more time to get the weapon and build the bombs, so that they can carry out their plans for revenge. They are just living the lessons they have learned in the movies, and on television, and in the violent video games. Their environment is the mentor that teaches them to get revenge, to kill those who have wronged him.
Constant humiliation and bullying will create, in some victims, a violent response. Living with fear, living with the awareness that they are being bullied and humiliated, will, in some cases, create a response of violence. If I bully you enough, if I humiliate you enough, you may respond with violence. It is a way of rebuilding your damaged self-image. It is a way of stopping the humiliation. It is a way of stopping the fear, and fear is a great motivator. The wonderful author James Gilligan writes about this in his book: “Violence.” It is profound, and well documented. In that book he states very simply that: “humiliation creates violence.” Constant humiliation creates a need for justice, a correction of the perceived injustice that the child is living. Constant humiliation creates a need for revenge, and therefore violence.
There you have the recipe, the creation of school shooters. Yes, this is a fairly simple overview. Yes, this is applicable mostly to school shooters, but it does apply to many criminals.
That is the process. It takes most of those steps, without interference from an outside source, to reach the level of a school shooter.
The humiliation has to be consistent, and sustained. It has to remain uninterrupted, without someone stopping it, or defending the humiliated child. It has to remain secret, which, with the “boy code” of never telling anyone, is pretty common. As a bullied child, I am not going to tell the Principal, or my parents. I might tell my brother, or he might see it. If he does, and does something about it, I may never develop a hypervigilant state, and the process may be interrupted. I will never tell my mother or father. My mother wouldn’t be able to stop it, and my father would tell me to: “Be a man.” To a bullied boy, that is a hopeless source of protection. The “boy code” gives bullies power and impunity.
One teacher, one school administrator can stop it, by simply being vigilant and watching for abuse. So can one parent. So can one friend. But, it has to be acknowledged. It has to be addressed.
Humiliation creates violence.
Take away the humiliation, and the angry boy will not need to go to the school to get revenge.
And now, the lesson for school shooters, written directly to you. Please read and give this some thought.
You have been bullied. You have been humiliated. You are angry. You want revenge.
You are starting to plan your revenge. You have decided to become violent. You are making the wrong decision. You are becoming the very thing you hate. You are going to become the biggest bully. That is the wrong decision. Don’t become the very thing you hate. Don’t become the biggest bully.
Decide to be non-violent. Decide to become a loving, caring human being.
Decide to become the thing you love.
Make a conscious decision to be better than the bullies, to be wiser, to be kind.
Become a loving, caring human being. Live your life with kindness and be a loving, caring human being.
I suggest reading the following books: “Why They Kill” by Richard Rhodes, “When A Child Kills” by Paul Mones, “Violence” by James Gilligan, “Lost Boys” by James Garbarino, and “The Creation of Dangerous and Violent Criminals” by Lonnie Athens.
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